In Vibe magazine’s June issue, Houston rapper, Slim Thug, talks candidly about how he feels black women and white women differ when it comes to relationships. He is not saying anything that we haven’t heard before. To me it sounds like the same old same old, black women are too demanding and materialistic while white women are submissive and quiet. My opinion on this issue differs dramatically from Slim’s because I don’t think color is an issue when it comes to relationships. How a woman treats a man is a direct reflection of her upbringing and her views on what her position in the relationship should be.
For me, I have no problem catering to my man and making sure that he is well taken care of. That does not make me weak, submissive, or any of those things that are often associated with a woman that goes all out for her man. If you don’t want to please him then what’s the point of being together. However with that said, in a relationship I expect what I give out so if I’m doing all I can to make my significant other happy I expect the same in return. Relationships are a 50:50 partnership and never will I allow someone to think that it isn’t.
My views on relationships and the roles played by the men and women in them were born as a result of the relationship that my parents’ have. So while I am willing to cater to my man I am not his personal love slave. I will not be taken advantage of and the minute I feel that I am all my catering will cease. I’m smart, independent, strong, have a great career and what I have to offer is more than just companionship and a pretty face. If we’re gonna be partners in the relationship it can work if we’re not then you can go that way–>.
I think what Slim Thug fails to recognize is that we are all products of our environment. Children tend to emulate that in which they are surrounded by. Those children soon become adults and carry with them all of their experiences from their childhood. So if people act a certain way in relationships it’s because of what they have seen or experienced in their childhood. These experiences can be either positive or negative and it really doesn’t matter if you’re black or white.
I think people really need to start thinking before they speak because sometimes they can say the most ignorant things. To speak so generally about an entire group of people is stupid to say the least. Every race has its fair share of materialistic and demanding women as well as its fair share of submissive and quiet women and in the words of Phife, it doesn’t matter if you’re black, white, Puerto Rican, or Asian. Slim Thug you really need to get a clue.
Below I posted Slim Thug’s blog which appeared in Vibe. Please let me know your opinion on this. I am curious to see how others feel about this.
The way Black people think in general is messed up. Both men and women need to change their way of thinking. It’s hard to trust a Black woman [sometimes] because a lot of Black women’s mind frame is that the man gotta do everything for her⎯ he gotta pay for this, he gotta pay for that, and if it ain’t about money then a lot of them ain’t fucking with him. If that’s what you’re here for then I don’t want to be with you.
Most single Black women feel like they don’t want to settle for less. Their standards are too high right now. They have to understand that successful Black men are kind of extinct. We’re important. It’s hard to find us so Black women have to bow down and let it be known that they gotta start working hard; they gotta start cooking and being down for they man more. They can’t just be running around with their head up in the air and passing all of us.
I have a brother that dates a White woman and he always be fucking with me about it saying, “Y’all gotta go through all that shit [but] my White woman is fine. She don’t give me no problems, she do whatever I say and y’all gotta do all that arguing and fighting and worry about all this other shit.”
My girl is Black and White. I guess the half White in her is where she still cooks and do all the shit that I say, so we make it. She just takes care of me and I like that. She don’t be begging and I don’t gotta buy her all this crazy ass shit. And she’s a smart girl too. She graduated from Columbia [University] and I like that about her so it’s cool. I’ve dated girls that will buy a $3,000 bag and don’t know how to pay it off on their credit cards. They walk around in these Louis Vuittons and red bottoms but they’re riding around in raggedy cars, so it’s just getting your priorities right.
White women treat they man like a king and Black women feel like they ain’t gotta do that shit. Black women need to stand by their man more. Don’t always put the pressure of if I’m fucking with you, you gotta buy me this and that. Black men are the ones that motherfuckers need [but] I think a lot of them need to step it up too. A Black man who gets a little bread will go make it rain in the club and be broke the next day or instead of him going to invest in a business he gonna go buy new jewelry or a new car and still live in the hood. Black peoples’ mentality is real fucked up in general [and] it’s affecting everything.
Black women need to be more genuine and be more 50/50 [but] It should be a fair exchange in a relationship period or eventually somebody is gonna feel like they’re getting fucked over whether it’s the woman or the man. I think that will help Black relationships out a lot. ⎯As Told To Starrene Rhett