When it comes to love/relationships views by the opposite sex often clash. Women are often perceived as being needy, clingy, insecure beings that leech on to any man that comes along because apparently every woman is searching for her knight in shining armor to ride in on his horse and save her.

Men are perceived as being these God like creatures who have their pick of any woman and make you feel like you’re the lucky one if they choose you for more than just a one night stand.

You often hear men say “I’d f*ck her but I wouldn’t wife her”. Could this statement be anymore narcissistic? Who’s to say that this woman you want only for 1 night wants to be wifed by you? Reality Check: Not all women are looking to be saved some actually only want to have a good time just like their male counter parts.

Today’s women are smarter, more confident and more independent so having a full fledged relationship may not be high on their list of priorities. I decided to write about this because I see this and hear it all the time.  

Men are so self-centered sometimes that they border on delusional. Contrary to what men think, not all women are looking for long lasting committed relationships. If she sleeps with you the first night, chances are she doesn’t want anything more from you than what you are able to provide that night. So the same way you probably wouldn’t wife her, 9 times out of ten she wouldn’t take you seriously either.

How can you take anyone seriously when you sleep with them but don’t even know their last name? That goes for both sexes. Most of us wouldn’t because obviously first impressions do say a lot. If someone sleeps with you on the first night you have to question their intentions. It is very likely that a relationship is not in the horizon.

However, because men have been innately programmed to think they are God’s gift to women, they believe that every woman wants them. Furthermore, they believe that women need to jump over hoops to please them and to be with them. I know so many men that put women through idiotic “tests” to see if they are worthy of being the “one”. Get the FOH.

Ladies: if a man ever has to put you through a “test” to know that your intentions are real drop him quick. Don’t give men so much power because the truth is that women have more power than men. It’s just that most of us don’t know how to use it. Ladies, stop relinquishing your power and learn how to use it.

I’m tired of men thinking that all women want to be cuffed by them. We don’t and frankly most of YOU aren’t even “cuffen” material. Most men have these high standards when it comes to the women they would “wife” but most of them have not reached a level in their lives where they should have such “high standards”. Bottom line is, if you can’t offer a woman the same thing that you demand then you’re in no position to be demanding sh*t.

When it comes to men and settling down, women usually look for someone that is on or above her own level. Let’s be honest, no one wants to be with a bum. It’s about building a life TOGETHER and if a man doesn’t bring something to the table other than what’s in between his legs he really isn’t good for anything but a sexual encounter.

So while you men may think that the woman you’re dealing with is looking to settle down and commit with you the reality very well may be that she isn’t because to her you’re not Mr. Right you’re Mr. Right Now.

*Originally posted June 16, 2010*