I came across the following article while I was doing some research and surfing the internet and I thought that it made some very valid points. When it comes to relationships we often let the chemicals in our brain take over our better judgment, especially when the relationship is new. Most of us are in love with the idea of being “in love” and because of … Continue reading Are You Giving Too Much Too Soon?
There’s something about being with someone that makes us feel complete. This is why most of us spend our lives searching for “the one”. However, once you’ve found the one how do you make sure the marriage lasts so that you don’t end up another statistic? Every relationship is different and there’s not a one size fits all approach for having a successful marriage, after … Continue reading The 4 Key Elements to a Successful Marriage
Today I am reflecting on all of the new connections that I have made in the past year. Building relationships with encouraging and supportive women is so important. I have been blessed with an amazing network of sisters that ranges from my fellow Visioneras to my childhood friends to those who share my love for creativity and the written word. In short, today I am … Continue reading Learning to be grateful…
There’s something about February 14 that brings out some emotion in everyone. Some people love it, some hate it, and others could care less. I have always been in the latter group. I have never put much thought or emphasis on Valentine’s Day. It wasn’t because I didn’t have a special someone to share the day with because for the past 14 years I have. It’s just … Continue reading What Does Valentine’s Day Mean To You????
The much awaited suspense surrounding baby Blue Ivy and which parent she most resembles can now come to a halt as proud daddy, Jay-Z, recently posted the first pics of his baby girl on his lifeandtimes.com website. I have to say that she is beautiful and thankfully favors her beautiful mommy, Beyonce. There’s something sexy about seeing a man holding his child. God bless the Carters and their … Continue reading First Pics of Blue Ivy Carter
“i found god in myself and i loved her. i loved her fiercely.” – Ntozake Shange Most of us spend a great deal of our lives looking for love, chasing love, recuperating from love or complaining about love. Never realizing that in our quest for love we are neglecting the person that matters most. Ourselves. I believe that as women we often disregard our own needs as a … Continue reading Fall in Love With You…
We attach our feelings to the moment when we were hurt, endowing it with immortality. And we let it assault us every time it comes to mind. It travels with us, sleeps with us, hovers over us while we make love, and broods over us while we die. Our hate does not even have the decency to die when those we hate die–for it is … Continue reading Forgiveness
I found this great article by Katheryn Hoban and wanted to share it with my readers. Enjoy! *** In my years of teaching and counseling I have come to the conclusion that many people are unsure of what affirmations are, how to use them, what great tools they can be, or what good benefits can be manifested by working with affirmations in both children and adults. … Continue reading Effectively Working with Affirmations
Reflections of a life spent crouching corners, dingy couches in smoky lounges Searching for the next willing participant to play this game To implant my seeds with no real regard to consequence Severing ties in barren wombs Terminating life Never expecting you to blossom from unfertilized potential Another addition on my black list of shame No intentions to call, never even knew your name … Continue reading Eulogy
I can’t believe it’s a new year. 2011 seemed to go by so quickly. So much has happened since my last blog post and I apologize that I haven’t posted anything since September. Shame on me. I am back and I am committed to posting at least one new blog a week. I will try to get back to my daily posting, but I’m so … Continue reading Happy New Year
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