“i found god in myself and i loved her. i loved her fiercely.” – Ntozake Shange Most of us spend a great deal of our lives looking for love, chasing love, recuperating from love or complaining about love. Never realizing that in our quest for love we are neglecting the person that matters most. Ourselves. I believe that as women we often disregard our own needs as a … Continue reading Fall in Love With You…
We attach our feelings to the moment when we were hurt, endowing it with immortality. And we let it assault us every time it comes to mind. It travels with us, sleeps with us, hovers over us while we make love, and broods over us while we die. Our hate does not even have the decency to die when those we hate die–for it is … Continue reading Forgiveness
I found this great article by Katheryn Hoban and wanted to share it with my readers. Enjoy! *** In my years of teaching and counseling I have come to the conclusion that many people are unsure of what affirmations are, how to use them, what great tools they can be, or what good benefits can be manifested by working with affirmations in both children and adults. … Continue reading Effectively Working with Affirmations
I can’t believe it’s a new year. 2011 seemed to go by so quickly. So much has happened since my last blog post and I apologize that I haven’t posted anything since September. Shame on me. I am back and I am committed to posting at least one new blog a week. I will try to get back to my daily posting, but I’m so … Continue reading Happy New Year
For your rippled waves
have awakened dormant dreams
that once flowed through me
like the great Nile River.
Through parted waters
and into the desert of infancy
I found myself again.
I valued myself again.
I loved myself again. Continue reading The Waters Within
Night out with the girls I just wanted to have fun Never looking for what I found But I reeled you in With my flirty talk My sexy walk yea you was kinda nice … tall, dark, handsome combined with the perfect mix of thug & intellect Just my type of guy offered me a ride home cuz I was about 5 drinks passed drunk … Continue reading Poem: Gibraltar
Me llaman la grifa~ niña linda, pelo malo~ because it wouldn’t obey untamable beast told to relax as the lie (lye) concoction burned the kink out of my hair erasing temporarily the part of me that I hated the most. Genetically made up to be wild not to be tamed or managed or straightened or subdued or laid flatly with no body or bounce No…that … Continue reading La Grifa~
In January of this year in the home of a friend (who I originally met on Facebook, yes Facebook) I attended a spiritual retreat that absolutely changed the direction of my life. I was at a point in my life where I wasn’t sure what I wanted to do with myelf. I was feeling unhappy, unsure, doubtful, & felt empty. Despite all of my accomplishments like my great career, having … Continue reading Embrace Your Inner Goddess
Last night I had the oportunity to spend the evening with a beautiful woman. Not only is she physically beautiful but she is spiritually beautiful. For me she is the embodiment of love and I told her so. From the moment that I met her I felt a connection to her. A pure and genuine connection that can only be felt and not described. But if I … Continue reading The Beauty of Sisterhood
Sisters. They’re bratty, clingy, nosey, and sometimes just plain old evil. They look up to you, imitate you, tease you, support you, help you, and console you when your first love dumps you. They’re catty, selfish, and spiteful but for all the things they are the most important of them is that no matter how bad things seem they will always love you. The bond … Continue reading A letter to my sister…
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