How Cancer Saved My Marriage

Music lyrics often talk about how great love is and it is great, most of the time. Sometimes external influences will blind us into believing that if our relationships aren’t like those detailed in the songs or movies then it isn’t love. No one ever tells you that you can fall in and out of love with the same person, or that romance is something you have to work at every single day of your marriage. The stresses of everyday life can become burdensome on a relationship and when there’s bills to pay, children to take care of, and work to do it can leave you feeling exhausted, unappreciated, and even resentful causing one to feel as if they want out of that loving relationship they were once in. Continue reading How Cancer Saved My Marriage

One thing I know for sure, marriage is hard!

Everyone warns you that marriage isn’t easy, but when you’re in the romantic stage of love that’s the farthest thing from your mind. You’re not thinking about how he calls his mother two to three times a day to “check in” which at the time you think is cute, but will make you turn into a raging lunatic reminiscent of the Exorcist foaming at the mouth and head spinning, five years down the road. Or how your ambitious go-getter attitude and dedicated work ethic that he initially found so sexy turns into resentment and jealousy later on. Or how opening a joint bank account turns into the Spanish Inquisition whenever you spend or withdraw money. There are so many things that factor into a marriage, many of which you have no clue about until you are in the throes of it. Continue reading One thing I know for sure, marriage is hard!

The advice I wish someone would have given me as a kid

It has been two years since my daughter was born and every night while putting her to sleep I think about the person she will one day become. I think about the daunting task parents have in raising confident, kind, and productive members of society. I sit in her dark bedroom and also think about the challenges she will one day face and my heart … Continue reading The advice I wish someone would have given me as a kid

The Mamí Chronicles: A letter to my daughter on her 2nd birthday (July 27, 2014)

July 27, 2014   Today is your birthday. There was no big party this year just a small and intimate celebration with your grandparents, aunt, uncle, and cousins. We spent it with the people who love and care for you most. As I sit in your dark bedroom rocking you to sleep, your tiny hands hang flaccidly against your side as you nestle your body … Continue reading The Mamí Chronicles: A letter to my daughter on her 2nd birthday (July 27, 2014)

For colored girls

She will learn from early that she carries history in her hair. Generations of thick tangled tresses. Genetically made up to be wild, not tamed or managed or straightened. Tautly twined coils stretched like the goatskin that cover djembe drums each lock relentlessly rebelling. Defiant like sugar cane, too relentless to conform, to transform, to be altered into something that she wasn’t really destined to … Continue reading For colored girls

Letters To My Daughter Is An International Latino Book Awards Finalist

In January of this year I self published my second book, through my own publishing house, CreativeInk Publishing. When I wrote Letters to My Daughter I knew that it was going to be a book worth recognizing because I put my heart into writing that book. As a virtually new mother (my daughter is 19 months old), I wanted to leave her legacy that she … Continue reading Letters To My Daughter Is An International Latino Book Awards Finalist

What kids can teach us about acceptance

“They seem like a normal family”, that’s what 11 year old Elle replied when asked what she thought about the family in the now infamous interracial Cheerios commercial that depicts a White mom, a Black dad, and a biracial daughter. The video above, filmed by the Fine Brothers,  was created to address  the “sensitive subject of racism and its impact on individuals, families, and the … Continue reading What kids can teach us about acceptance

Upcoming Events (Remembering Love: A La Loba Poetry & LatinosNYC Production)

Join me January 23, 2014 as I perform alongside some of NYC’s most distinguished poets at the Nuyorican Poet’s Café as we celebrate the memory of our loved ones who have passed on. Features include: Miguel Angeles Maria Aponte Marybeth Aponte Shamar Hill Flora Montes Maria Rodriguez Nancy Ruffin Tamara Saliva Papo Swiggity Mark Vigo aka Vigo Hard Feature Bios: Vanessa Mártir aka La Loba … Continue reading Upcoming Events (Remembering Love: A La Loba Poetry & LatinosNYC Production)