For the past few days I’ve been pondering this question “Is there really such a thing as harmless flirting?”. Some would argue yes while others would say no. I, however, say that flirting can be harmless if there is no underlying romantic attraction (be it physical, emotional, or both).
I believe that most people flirt or have flirted on occasion but what happens when you flirt with someone and then you realize “damn I think I’m starting to really like this person?” This is when flirting turns from harmless fun to something a little more complicated. Complicated because the other person may not necessarily share the same romantic feelings. To them it very well can be harmless flirting OR maybe the feelings are mutual but there are other factors at play like distance or relationship status (one or both may be involved with other people). When this is the dilemma what do you do? Do you continue talking & flirting or do you pull away? Do you say to yourself “it’s harmless fun” when in the back of your mind you know you really want more.
I was recently talking to a friend and in the conversation this topic sort of came up. During the conversation it was said that when it comes to dealing with the opposite sex they usually just like to go with the flow but in situations that are out of the ordinary going with the flow can sometimes be scary. And I agree. I’m usually one for just going with the flow too but sometimes taking this type of attitude can put you on a road that there’s no turning back from. Meaning that when it comes to matters of the heart sometimes just “going with the flow” isn’t the best way to proceed because someone or both individuals can get hurt. I guess sometimes it’s too late to proceed with caution because once you’re caught up it’s hard to get out. I find that once you’re involved in certain situations it is very difficult to get out of them especially when you really don’t want to.
I think most of us would agree that nothing compares to the feeling you get at the beginning of new friendships/relationships. It’s those feelings of excitement, anticipation, & curiosity. Excitement because it’s something new and refreshing. That new person sparks something in you that you didn’t even realize was there. Anticipation because you find yourself looking forward to seeing, speaking, texting, or even bbm’ing them everyday. They put a smile on your face without you even realizing it. You begin to think about them more and more throughout the day and then think to yourself “why is this happening?” “How can this person be effecting me so”? I guess its just a *side effect* of the excitement and anticipation. Curiosity, because the fear of the unkown makes us want to know more. It’s just a part of life and human nature. We are all curious beings and our curiosity will not be satisfied until we have experienced it for ourselves.
In my opinion, things always happen for a reason. People come into our lives for a reason and although that reason may not be easily apparent, in time the reason will reveal itself. Just trust your feelings because they will never steer you wrong. Until next time I leave you with the question to ponder “Is There Really Such a Thing as Harmless Flirting?♥