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On Bill Cosby, Rape, and why some men just don’t get it

The other day as I was preparing dinner I asked my husband what he thought about the recent rape allegations that have resurfaced about Bill Cosby. His response was eerily similar to the responses I have heard come from other men.

“If these women were raped why are they talking about it now? Why did they wait so long to come forward?” he said.

“Is that really your response?”, I replied. “What if it was your daughter, who years after being raped or assaulted broke her silence and finally decided to talk about what happened to her, would you still have the same response? Does the length of time it takes a person to break their silence make their claims invalid?” He remained quiet. Continue reading On Bill Cosby, Rape, and why some men just don’t get it

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Current Events, Sex

Abortion Rates for Latinos are 2nd Highest in NYC

New York Catholic Archbishop Timothy Dolan at a a press conference in New York on Jan. 6, 2011. (AP Photo/Chiaroscuro Foundation, Diane Bondareff) A recent study by the New York City Department of  Health  released statistics that 39% of pregnancies in the city end in abortion.  According to the report, in 2009 there were 225, 667 pregnancies in the City. Of those, 126,774 resulted in … Continue reading Abortion Rates for Latinos are 2nd Highest in NYC

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Love, Poems, Sex

Regret

The fire raged for forty days and in forty ways sparks burned stars on virgin skin. Beaming heat on nameless faces, engaged in activities better left unsaid. Temporary joys felt under shameful satin sheets Remnants of cigarette smoke linger, yellow fog lives on the nameless window-panes. Invisible eyes don’t recognize themselves in a mirror, with a stranger’s glance staring back. She believed in new life, … Continue reading Regret

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Relationships, Sex

The Gay Debate: Is It Really a Choice?

“Hello”, I say into the receiver as I answer my work phone. “Look at my facebook page”, my sister replies back to me from the other end of the phone. “Why?”…”You’ll see”, she says. I log into my facebook account and click on my sister’s page. I read her FB status: ‎”1 out of every 10 people are born gay. That means 1 out of … Continue reading The Gay Debate: Is It Really a Choice?

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Love, Relationships, Sex

What Makes A Man Commit??

I came across this arcticle while surfing the internet and thought it was an interesting read so I wanted to share it with you all. It’s from a man’s perspective so fellas let me know if you agree with the author’s reasoning and ladies feel free to add your 2 cents too. Enjoy! ********************************************************* Good morning/afternoon/evening ladies and gentlemen. The last time I wrote for … Continue reading What Makes A Man Commit??

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Love, Relationships, Sex

First-Date Sex:: Is there a double standard?

  I think anyone who is an adult has had “First Date Sex”. Regardless of the level of respect we have for ourselves, I think at least once, we have all been swept away in a steamy moment. Now, does this qualify as a bad move? I think it does in regards to the role a woman plays. Though we feel we are mature enough … Continue reading First-Date Sex:: Is there a double standard?

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Current Events, Sex

Welcome to The Rape Capital of the World: The Victimization & Abuse of Women

While most of my posts are love and relationship driven, there are times when I come across a news article or some other current events issue that forces me to pay attention and speak up. I recently came across an article in The New York Times that highlighted a present day epidemic in the Democratic Republic of the Congo that literally had me sick to … Continue reading Welcome to The Rape Capital of the World: The Victimization & Abuse of Women

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Love, Relationships, Sex

Is it Ever a Good Idea To Go From Friends to Lovers?

When it comes to men and women just being friends I think that somewhere along the line the man, woman, or both begin to the see the other in a way that they may not have seen them initially. Meaning that during the time that the friendship develops, both individuals are learning about each other in a much deeper and honest way than you would learn about a potential partner. Because you’re relationship is at the friendship level, none of the pressure to ‘impress” each other exists. This allows you to let your guard down and really be yourself. But what you don’t realize at the time is that the overlap in what we want from both friends and partners is significant.
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