Can You Go From Being a Jump Off to being the Main Chick????

Jump off, f*ck buddy, friends with benefits there are many terms used to describe sex with no strings attached. Whether you are the other woman/man or just that one person always readily available for sex at some point someone in the relationship (and I use that term lightly) is going to want more.  It’s just human nature, we eventually all want what we can’t have. Usually … Continue reading Can You Go From Being a Jump Off to being the Main Chick????

What Came First the A$$hole or the B!tch?

I think much can be said about relationships between men and women. Some women say that behind every bitch there’s an a-hole that made her that way and men argue that behind every a-hole there’s a bitch that made him that way. This argument is like trying to decide which came first, the chicken or the egg. In order to gain some understanding about the interactions between the opposite sex I think it’s important to look at how it all began.

Ever since the days of Adam and Eve when Eve coaxed Adam into eating the fruit of the forbidden tree it seems like women have had some sort of power over men. Eve was tricked by the serpent (obviously because we don’t listen and think we know it all) into taking a bite of the apple and she then convinces her husband into taking a bite. The Bible tells us that as a result of succumbing to the temptation, God banishes Adam and Eve from Eden, and they and their descendants are destined to live lives of hardship. God tells Adam that he will earn his bread only through hard labor and sweat while Eve is made subject to her husband and condemned to the pangs of childbearing. All of this, because neither Adam nor Eve listened to what they they were told.

Here we are, thousands of years later and it seems like much hasn’t changed between men and women. Or has it?? Women now-a-days boast of their newly acquired independence, they are now educated, and earning as much or more than their male counterparts. Women are taking care of themselves and their families and no longer play the role of damsel in distress waiting to be saved by Prince Charming. They are mothers, wives, business women, and president of the PTA. Others have taken control of their sexuality and have no problem with promiscuity, sleeping with a man on the first date, stripping, or any of the so-called things that used to be ta-bu in society. We have women leaking sex tapes just for 5 minutes of fame and celebrity. In today’s world nothing is off limits. Women have taken control of their lives and are loving it.

However, with this new found independence comes a new attitude, it’s what some may call bitchiness. Most women will argue that in order to get respect or to be treated equally by men they have to resort to being bitches. Playing the nice role no longer works when it comes to love. Women are tired of being taken for granted, not being appreciated, putting their all into a relationship to only get cheated on or disrespected. Women have now taken the reigns and are steering their own course in life and love. But what happens to the nice guy that comes across this type of no-holds barred woman? The type of woman that is tired of getting played so has now decided to start playing the game herself. Does the nice guy give his all to only get burned in the process? Is this the point that nice guys turn into assholes? All it takes is one heartbreak, that one relationship where you have committed to giving your all to only not get the same in return. This can go both ways because I honestly feel that no one starts out as a bitch or an asshole but only becomes one after that one bad heartbreak. We vow to never get hurt like that again and the only way to ensure that doesn’t happen is by becoming “the bitch” or “the asshole”.

They often say that nice guys finish last but I think the older one gets the less true that statement becomes. When you’re young you accept and deal with more b.s. than you would when you get older. For instance, men now-a-days feel like they don’t have to work at trying to impress a woman. They no longer believe in “courting” you. There is no longer dating, where they come to your house, pick you up, and open the car door for you. Instead, it’s more like meet me at this spot, we’ll hang out for a few, hook up afterward, and then you can find your own way home. They have this “I don’t care” type of attitude because women, with their new found independence, allow it. They see nothing wrong with this type of arrangement except that by allowing this type of treatment the man will never really respect you. I am all for female empowerment but you have to believe in your own self-worth before a man will believe in you. There’s nothing wrong with being independent and powerful and proud but don’t allow those things to change you so much that you jeapordize your reputation.

Women go out with the idea of who they’re going to hook up by the end of the night. They make it so easy for men that a man doesn’t even have to intitiate the first contact. Women are now as agressive as men used to be and often become the ones chasing after the man. But what happens to the nice girl? The girl that expects to be treated with respect and courtesy? Do these new independent bitches ruin it for them? I would say yes because men will automatically assume that all women are bitches and treat them all the same and in the process lose out on a potentially good woman.

In today’s day and age everyone is out to play the game but who really wins in the end? Ultimately, we’re just going to end up having a bunch of bitches and assholes and in that type of situation everybody loses.

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Blame It On The Alcohol…

We all at one point or another have fallen victim to drunk texting or drunk dialing. Drunk texting for those not familiar with the term, is the act of texting your loved ones, friends, ex’s, potential bf’s/gf’s, etc. while under the influence. Before text messaging one would usually drunk dial but both scenarios are equally humiliating and most times regrettable. It appears that alcohol somehow gives you … Continue reading Blame It On The Alcohol…

Main Chick, Side Chick, Jump-Off: What a tangled web we weave…

  Today is Valentine’s Day and as a woman who has been with the same man for 12 years I have always had someone to spend this day with. However, as my twitter timeline has actively shown this weekend, there are many who are single, many who are involved with someone but don’t have the title of “boyfriend/girlfriend” yet and others who may just be … Continue reading Main Chick, Side Chick, Jump-Off: What a tangled web we weave…

Make It Rain

The art form of stripping has been an element of entertainment and pop-culture  for a very long time. Stripping or the strip tease dates back to the late 19th century when theatre, cabaret and vaudeville were at their height of popularity, and burlesque emerged as a new form of entertainment. Although stripping still exists, the nightclub stage act known as the striptease faded from popularity in … Continue reading Make It Rain

R.Kelly’s Newest Single: “Number 1”

Despite his past problems with the law and the child pornography charges that he was acquitted of, one thing that is undeniable is that R. Kelly is a musical genius. In my opinion, he IS the King of R&B. Almost every single he puts out becomes a number 1 hit so there’s no doubt that his newest single featuring Keri Hilson will make it’s way to … Continue reading R.Kelly’s Newest Single: “Number 1”