Marriage. Growing up I always believed that was where I would be at this age; happily committed to someone, who would love me unconditionally. Now, a week shy of 25 years old, I realize that it is one of the least important things on my to-do list. When did this happen? Was it in between all of the foul relationships or all of those hilarious … Continue reading Marriage:: Is It Something We Really Want?
By Vanessa Quiles Didn’t matter that our basis began faceless. For I was enamored off of the language he spat in phrases. Never was I played with. Instead, he taught me how to dance, to the cadency of his rages! Grabbed the pen from my hand and scribbled life back onto my blank pages. Damn his love…..contagious! At times I’ll sit alone, retrace … Continue reading L.O.V.E.
These are two small words made up of 7 letters in total but the power of these words is amazing. I think I once heard somewhere (probably in a movie) that love means never having to say you’re sorry. This could be farther from the truth in my opinion and obviously a Hollywood misconception. Continue reading “I’m Sorry”: Have these 2 words lost their value?
I originally posted this back in May but I was speaking with a friend recently and felt like I needed to re-post this. With the popularity of the internet and all of these various networking/social/dating sites it is no surprise that many people today are beginning to find potential love interests on sites such as Facebook and Twitter. I was talking to one of my … Continue reading Twitter Love: Is love One Tweet Away???
When it comes to men and women just being friends I think that somewhere along the line the man, woman, or both begin to the see the other in a way that they may not have seen them initially. Meaning that during the time that the friendship develops, both individuals are learning about each other in a much deeper and honest way than you would learn about a potential partner. Because you’re relationship is at the friendship level, none of the pressure to ‘impress” each other exists. This allows you to let your guard down and really be yourself. But what you don’t realize at the time is that the overlap in what we want from both friends and partners is significant.
Continue reading Is it Ever a Good Idea To Go From Friends to Lovers?
All everyone wants is to be loved. That’s why we spend most of our lives searching for that person that “completes” us. In that search, we experience some good relationships and we also experience some not so good relationships. In either case, the hope is that we learn something from the experience. However, what we can never get the hang of is dealing with a … Continue reading Relationships End: Get Over It
When it comes to finding love are you willing to date outside your norm? Why are individuals that want love still single? Continue reading Why Can’t I Find “The One”?
When you think about all the joys and pains, and fears, and laughter that comes with years of friendship your once so-called best friend can become your worst enemy. They in fact hold all of your deep down secrets and everything that was once sacred and shared can become the most vicious and painful of ammunition. I wonder if people think about that when they inadvertently, without thinking, end friendships. How quickly one forgets everything they once told you in confidence. Continue reading Best Friend or Worst Enemy: What Happens When Friendships Go Wrong???
For some reason unbeknownst to me, the dynamics of a relationship change once you’re married. What negotiation techniques do you use with your significant other to get them to do what you want? Continue reading Visit to my Sister’s House: (Part 2: Okay Papi?!?!)
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